Hi JacquelineI’m so terribly sorry that I haven’t been in touch. I had an even worse rough patch after we last saw each other.I was made redundant (they tried to pay me next to nothing so I had to really them which took a lot of doing) then I had a miscarriage. Shortly after that my brother tried to kill himself by jumping from a rail way bridge. He broke both of him hips and his foot. He was lucky to survive. All of that happened within 5 months of each other and it put a huge strain on me and Kieran. We’ve just about survived it.Then my redundancy battle ended and I came away with a years salary. my brother recovered and I came to terms with the loss of the baby.my husband and I were not in a great place but we knew we wanted to still be together and “T”was absolutely thriving so we were moving on. Then K was offered an amazing opportunity in shanghai working for the Chinese enterprise and we went for it!5 months of planning later and we arrived in shanghai yesterday. We will be here for three years all being well.It was a huge risk and I hope it pays off after everything we’ve been through.I can’t thank you enough for everything you did for me after losing A and then B. Your sessions honestly saved my life. Thier loses will always sit extremely heavily with me and I am still grieving for both of them.We would absolutely love for your and Ray to come and stay with us here. I will send you our address. I have to sign off now as T is causing havoc!LoveH xxx
Dear Jacqui, i just wanted to say thank you, with out you i’m not even sure if i’d be here to day, let alone be as content as i am. There is still along way for me to go, but for the first time since i can remember i can say that my depression doesn’t control me !
Thank you ……………………….
I hope you are well. I just wanted to let you know
I am feeling so much better these last couple of weeks, continuing to read the book and do the daily mindfulness exercises which has hopefully given me the tools to keep the worst of my anxiety at bay.
I just wanted to thank you for your help over the last couple of months. Simply talking about it has helped me put a lot of things into perspective and I now have some goals to work towards.
If I ever need any help in the future, I know where to come to!
About 15% of all couples in their reproductive years’ experience infertility. The feelings and emotions that manifest can be extremely difficult to come to terms with and accept. Whilst there is a fairly even split between female / male / couple infertility cases, very little research exists on how infertility affects a male.
The best tool in the box when you’r feeling low is to talk to someone and our talks really helped so thank you for all your advice and support, it was also a pleasure meeting you.
Thanks again Jacqueline
I just want to get in touch to say a really big thank you for helping me through a difficult period of my life. Normally such an optimistic person, I came to you feeling low, confidence shattered and depressed. My business had collapsed and I owed a lot of money to the bank, my wife had experienced three recurrent miscarriages and we had not long experienced a death of a very close family member. All of these things happening at once was just too much for me to deal with. I had been trying to lift myself up on my own, but to no avail.
You listened to me talk about my problems in a way no one else could and helped me to see things in a different light. The tools you gave me to help improve my confidence will last forever, and I continue to practice these daily so they become my way of life.
I am pleased to say that things are a lot clearer for me now and life has improved immensely. My business debts have now been fully repaid to the bank, a huge weight off our family’s shoulders. My wife is now pregnant with everything progressing well and we are expecting a new addition to the family in January. My new business is going from strength to strength so things couldn’t be better.
Sometimes you just need someone to talk to who doesn’t judge you and is there to listen and guide you back on track. You did this and I am eternally grateful.
Many thanks again,
I just wanted to email you to thank you for your help and support over the past few months. I am coping very well with my anxiety and haven’t had a panic attack in quite some time.
I know it will take time for my anxiety to be a thing of the past but I am now able to embrace it and use the coping strategies you taught me to help me stay calm. I have made a few small changes both in my work and home life including swimming and general ‘me time’ to unwind. I am recently noticing I CAN cope in stressful situations such as my car breaking down this morning- Just one of those things, whereas before due to be being so wound up and feeling so stressed, I would go into a full blown melt down.
The tools you have given me will last me a lifetime, mindfulness/relaxation/communication and many more, I would not hesitate to come back to you in the future should I ever need someone to talk to and confide in. I have recommended you to family, work colleagues and Friends.
I am so glad I met you and I wish you the best of luck in the future.
Client Currently living in South East Asia.
Thanks, here is an update on how I’ve been feeling recently. I’m feeling like a healing process has definitely begun. I’ve noticed a lot of positive changes in myself since I began counselling and all my reading, writing etc
I feel more rooted in the present. I know that I don’t need to keep running, keep dreaming of the future, but that I should appreciate what I have today, that I’ve already arrived. I don’t need to wait until tomorrow, until I am perfect, to find my joy and peace of mind. I can find joy today in the here and now. This is really a big deal for me. I used to spend so much time thinking about the future even up until quite recently. xxxx and I would spend ages talking about where we are going to travel when we finish our contracts here and where we will live after that and then what we will do etc etc. But we’ve stopped. I realised there’s no point in planning – things change anyway, and we will spend our time and energy focusing on our lives now and making the most of our time here. I’ve realised that if you’re always striving for something different you miss what’s right in front of you, the magic all around.
I am content with the here and now, what I am doing. I don’t need to have my whole life mapped out. It is much more exciting this way – life is much more of an adventure!
I actually feel like I’ve let go of so much old pain that I’ve been carrying around with me for so long. I have barely thought about the past. I used to replay it in my head all the time and feel anxious.For the first time since I can remember, I don’t dwell on the past and I don’t feel guilty and I don’t feel angry and I don’t feel sad when I think about my past and my xxx and xxx. I think I cried all my tears and I don’t think there are any left in me. I don’t feel anxious when I think about xxx and xxx. I don’t feel responsibility towards them for their happiness. I know they are in charge of their own lives and it’s not my place to worry about where their lives are going. I realise that I’m not responsible for my Mum and her drinking. There’s nothing I can do about it.
I feel more accepting of my family and their flaws as well as myself and my flaws. I feel like the burden has been lifted from me. I realise I was hurting myself, and it wasn’t doing myself or anyone any good – it wasn’t making the slightest bit of difference to anyone but me. The idea of sharing responsibility also helped me – I have other family members too, I’m not alone.
I realise how I deserve to be happy and to lead my own life. That I am only responsible for my self and my happiness, and no one else’s. We all have choices and we must own them.
I know that my past will always be a part of me, and I feel content with that and accepting of it, because it’s brought me to where I am today. I feel like I’ve brought so much hidden locked away feelings out into the open. I don’t have anything to be ashamed of now. I can see my past more clearly now, more objectively. I feel like my inner child is smiling now. I feel less isolated and alone knowing that others have been through similar experiences and worse.
Jacqueline Hurst Counsellor
Leamington Spa, and Coventry
Introduction to Counselling – here I talk about the benefits of counselling and what patients can expect from counselling sessions with me:
Introduction to Counselling Video Extract:
I would like to take this opportunity to just say a little bit about how counselling works and the kind of issues that people might bring to a counselling session.
What is counselling?
I would describe Counselling as a confidential helping relationship. Counselling is a form of therapy that helps when you are going through emotional difficulties, and feeling overwhelmed by issues that you might be facing in your life at that moment.
Counselling is about having someone that really listens – something that in today’s society seems to be quiet rare. Someone who really listening to your thoughts and understanding some of your most closely guarded feelings, and helping you explore your problems in a safe confidential environment and in a totally non judgmental way.
Counselling is not about telling someone what to do, because that would create a dependency. However I will be able to help you, and facilitate your own skills in finding ways to sort things out for yourself.
Counselling gives you the opportunity to have two people examine your life, teaching you how to become the “passive observer of your own life” giving you the ability to be able to see the old triggers and patterns and to help you stop reacting to situations in the same old way, which inevitably ends up with you feeling very stressed and creating lots of anxiety.
I work with individuals or couples.
When working with couples we will be looking at how communication works within the relationship particularly focusing on assumptions and expectations.
Counselling / Psychotherapy therapies could mean learning how to communicate with others in a more productive way and also improving relationships, it could mean learning to take care of yourself in a better way, by living a more balanced life.
I am an accredited bereavement counselor and have worked extensively with those facing loss and change.
Counselling is about self development, its about you, about working with you to understand and work though the many issues that affect us from time to time. Helping you to rediscover who you are and come to self acceptance.
Its about you becoming better at learning to cope with your and emotions feelings.
On our journey we will work towards building greater self confidence and self esteem.
My clients come to me by self referral, you don’t need a GP referral and I work with many employee assist programs.
I am an accredited BACP member and I am a recognised provider of counselling and psychotherapy to the leading private health care provider in the UK and a member of their mental health and wellbeing network.